A good relationship with your lawyer goes a long way to a sucessful divorce. Your lawyer is there to help you realize your goals and protect your self-interests.  Every case and individual are unique, however, a number basic client attitudes and bahaviors are sure to ehance your attorney-client relationship during your divorce case. 

Be an informed and involved client.  Listen carefully to your lawyers advice and learn all there is to learn from your lawyer.  You need to participate in the case.  Your lawyer cannot do everyting for you.

Don't artifically limit your lawyer.  Occasionally a client will request that a lawyer not go to court or not communicate with their spouses lawyer.  This will frustrate the process and your divorce will likely drag. 

Do not keep secrets or intentionally mislead your lawyer:  Withholding information about yourself or others empowers the other side.  Share everything, including embarrasing facts. Your lawyer will tell you the best way to present those facts.  Nothing is more frustrating for a lawyer than to learn in the middle of the case that the client has withheld information.  Once the client is labeled decietful, it is difficult for the court to believe anything they have to say.  You can see where I am going with this.

Do not have off-stage lawyers or others advising you.  If you don't trust your lawyer, you should find another one.  If you want a second opinion, ask your lawyer for a referal or tell your lawyer that you are seeking a second opinion.  The second opinion lawyer has some ethical contraints on the scope of advice he or she can give you since you are already represetened.  The other lawyer should communicate with your lawyer so that everyone knows what is being said and advised.

Don't allow yourself become frustrated  If communicating your lawyer is frustrating, sit down and talk abouty it together. Your lawyer may feel the same way.  Together you can find a better means of communicating. 

Ask questions and don't be afraid to call:  If you have questions, call and ask.  Sometimes a list of email questions is good.  Save as many questions you have for one call or email.  This will reduce the cost of multiple calls and emails.